bluedragon-silence asked: Forgive me if this was asked before, but I've been looking through the meta, and I'm curious about Snow's role in Regina's anger, and subsequently becoming the Evil Queen. I am of the opinion that at eleven years old, she should have been able to keep the secret, and it was wrong that she didn't. My sister argued that you can't hold a child culpable and that 100% of the blame should be on Cora. I don't disagree that Cora IS to blame, but I don't feel like Snow is blameless in that instance.
Honestly, the telling of the secret is so low on the list of violence Snow has committed against Regina… its only relevance is that it is the first.
But I’ll play ball.
First: Snow was not eleven, she was just about thirteen. At thirteen—and also at eleven, but whatever—you absolutely are capable of understanding that your actions have consequences. When you are explicitly told that there will be terrible if unnamed consequences to telling a secret, there is no additional metacognition that needs to happen for you to understand the stakes.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: Snow telling the secret shows that Snow believed she had more right to determine the course of Regina’s life than Regina herself did. Snow prioritized Regina’s relationship with her mother even after Regina herself said that her mother was the danger. Snow did not do this because she knew anything positive about Regina’s relationship with Cora; Snow did this because of her own beliefs about the importance of mothers.
[Nevermind that Snow ended up getting what she wanted: Regina as her new mother. Only a minor detail.]
Snow, as a thirteen year old, believed that she knew better, about Regina’s life, than Regina, and proceeded to take the one action that she was explicitly told not to take in order to direct Regina’s life to be in accordance with her own preferences. That is an act of violence. That has nothing to do with Cora, or Daniel, or anyone or anything else. That is Snow reigning over Regina. That is active oppression. That is subjugation.
A thirteen year old with limitless power seizes control of a comparatively powerless seventeen/eighteen year old’s life against her explicitly expressed wishes. As a result, that seventeen/eighteen year old is subjected to rape, isolation, suspicion, imprisonment, infringement of privacy, and other untold levels of direct and indirect violence.
Forget Cora. Forget Daniel. That is the root of Regina’s anger.
As for everything else that followed: see here, here and here.